It's been a year since I had the extreme pleasure of not only taking my sisters wedding photos, but I was asked to stand with her as she married the man of her dreams. The following is part of the speech I made at the reception.
Not many people know this but I first met Frank at a baseball game in Phoenix, Arizona. Herman and I were visiting friends out there and while we were seated in the stadium, we looked up to see 6 or 7 people from La Crete walking towards us to their seats. I was at the end of my row of friends and Frank was at the end of his row of friends so we ended up sitting together. I had seen him around town before and kind of new his name, but this was the first time we were actually introduced. I never did get a chance to thank you for the chat we had that day. I don’t remember any of it but I do know it was enjoyable. Last summer when Eva told me she was hanging out with some Frank Friesen guy in La Crete I wondered if it was you and hoped it would be. After I did a little Facebook stalking and confirmed my suspicions, I was happy with Eva’s new “friend”, and I knew that one day I would be here telling you all how I met Frank in Arizona. Honestly, I don’t know much about you, but what I do know is that you are generous, hard working, kind hearted and an answer to Eva’s prayers. I also know that you must be a wonderful man, because Eva would not settle for anyone less than she deserves. And she deserves the greatest of men. We are all happy to include you in our families shenanigans, we are all looking forward to getting to know you better.
Anyone who knows Eva knows she is a fairly happy person. Even if you don’t know her that well, you know she's a happy person. If you ever need to find her, you just need to listen for her. Her laugh is unmistakable and if she isn’t laughing she’s probably singing. But in all the years I have known her, I have never seen her as happy as she has been since she met Frank. Which is kind of scary cuz she was pretty topped off to begin with. Her smile is more genuine now. Her eyes shine brighter. And there is definitely a skip in her step. I didn’t think it was possible but you bring out more Joy in her. It is wonderful to see how much she loves you and how much you love her. For this I thank you.
I know traditionally this is where I insert some funny stories of the bride to embarrass her. And although I know there are many, many….many to choose from, when it came time to write this speech I couldn’t recall a single one of them. Well…..actually I couldn’t think of any that didn’t involve me as well. The memories that came to mind were all happy ones, filled with laughter and singing. We have shared many moments together, I’d say good and bad but I forget the bad ones and there weren’t too many of those anyway. Eva was the first one I told when Herman and I first started dating and later on she stood by my side as my maid of honour. The way she lived her life for God was the reason I sought out God myself. She has made a huge wonderful impact on my life and has always shown me great support and encouragement. Not only is she my sister, but she is the second best roommate I’ve ever had and I have the extreme pleasure to call her one of my closest and dearest friends. When Herman and I decided to move to Penticton, saying goodbye to her was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. She is one of the biggest reasons I wanted to stay. Not only because we were close and I’d miss her, but also I had grown very protective of my big sister and felt that she depended on me. I think God knew I had to go so that she could become more independent. I had to get out of the way and let her go so you two could meet and begin your relationship. I was worried for her. I just wanted her to be ok because I love her so much but I realize now I had nothing to worry about because she was always in good hands.
In closing I want to let you two in on an amazing fact I have learned over my 8 1/2 years of marriage. This is not the most you will ever love each other. Throughout the years, you will look at the other person and realize that you love them more then you ever have before. So as much as you two love each other right now, in this moment……..you ain’t seen nothing yet!